Food Pantry Needs
• Powdered milk
• Canned fruit
Thanks to Moises and Christian from Oak Street Health for coming this week to connect clients with low cost health care and community resource opportunities. Check out their website if you’re interested in more information! www.oakstreethealth.com
Respect Life Ministry
Last week St. Cletus was able to host the Archdiocesan group heading on their pilgrimage to the Washington D.C. March for Life. 128 participants represented the Archdiocese! We’re grateful for their service and glad they had a safe trip despite the snowstorm(s).
Domestic Violence Outreach
Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury and death for women of all socioeconomic, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds, and affects up to 1 in 10 men and 1 in 3 teens. We invite you to join us to raise awareness and stand in solidarity with all those affected by violence.
Note that these are intended for adult readers. All names have been changed for protection.
My partner has been physically and emotionally abusing me for about twelve months. It started with pushing and shoving and taking my keys when I wanted to leave. He was very insecure about past relationships and jealous of people he thought were a threat. We would have evenings where he’d been drinking and start calling me names. It would go on for hours until he would fall asleep. The next day it was always the same, he was sorry and he didn’t know why he said and did the things he did.
I believed him at first but after the third time I knew it was a mistake and I had to get out.
The final straw was the worst behavior, hours of verbal abuse and name calling and then he became violent when I tried to call someone. That night it dawned on me things will never change. I had to put myself first and do what was right for me. How could I let myself be hurt this way?
How I coped
I believed he wanted to change. We even went to counseling together but it didn’t last. I kept telling myself that it was the drink, or I tried to change my way of thinking and acting. Nothing worked. I knew I had to get out. I confided in a friend who helped me cope and then to eventually leave.
How the situation changed
After the last time, I had the strength to tell him to leave. Of course, he wouldn’t leave, but I asked my friend for help and she reinforced to him that I wanted him out, or else I’d call the police. He believed me then because I’d told someone.
What helped me
My belief is that this was wrong and no matter what, his behavior was not my fault. Good friends helped and are still helping me to get stronger. I will seek counseling now and I know I’ll keep going forward and get stronger still.
What I would say to others
Believe in yourself and tell yourself you deserve better. I know it’s hard but you can get out, you don’t have to live like this. No matter what they tell you, never ever believe that the abuse is your fault.